The way you approach someone says it all. Communication is a two way street and I think that is shows respect on both parts when both parties address each other by their names, shows eye contact, and tries to remain positive (and if it is negative remain calm and find a solution).
When someone comes to me all the time and they won't look me in the eyes, they don't use my name, and are always negative about something it makes me irritated and somewhat annoyed. It makes me feel disrespected. I also find that with negative people, it is just like "crying wolf." When they are so negative all the time and then something serious comes up I don't know to believe them nor do I really want to talk to them. Also, when someone approaches me in a negative manner, ignores what I am saying, and won't look at me it makes me not want to communicate with them anymore.
When one or both parties in the conversation don't show respect towards what the other one is saying, I feel then one or both sides will shut down or in some cases not care what they have to say at other times. Communication is key in everything and when one or both shuts down then nothing gets accomplished. I find that whether you are interested in what the person is saying or not you show respect, look them in the eyes, address them my their proper name, and try to remain positive. Besides, no one wants to deal with a "Negative Nancy/Ned" all the time.
The reason I assigned this question is because I have seen staff do this to each other, the director and to the parents. Students need to become aware of their own feelings about this issue so they can understand how important it is to others to be acknowledged. Thoughtful answer
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